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In college courses, you learn new confusing things, read books that aren’t quite English and actually learn useful stuff.  So the thousands of dollars you pay for them might just be worth it. But let’s get real, the part where you have to deal with others sucks. Yes, college is the time to get introduced to a new degree of people to hate.

1.  The Student Who Tries Too Hard at Comedy

The professor says a joke. Next an eager student has to respond with a comeback that reeks of try-too-hardness. We’re sure you were a hoot in high school. But this is the big leagues; leave the comedy to the professionals.

2. The Drama/Theater Major

Nothing like watching a drama major do a big song and dance throughout the entire course. Sometimes they literally break into song and dance. It’s forever traumatizing.

3. The Midterm Obsessed Student

“Will this be on the midterm?”-he asked the first day of class. And so the battle begins. The professor tries to get the students to focus more on learning, but that one GPA obsessed pupil never learns.

4. The Kanye West Student

Every course has one student that believes everything they say comes from the mouth of gods. But really they’re just narcissists who never know when to shut up.

5. The Facebook Stalker Student

If you never checked Facebook once during class, you’re either lying or too cool for the rest of us. But there is a big difference from checking it a couple of times to spending your whole course poking your friends. Is that really what you want to do with the rest of your life?

6. The Professor’s Want-to-Be Bestie

Source: Mashable

Source: Mashable

Throughout the entire schooling process, there is often a sort of suck-up student. Eventually, they evolve into that student who really wants to hang with the professor after class. We know in college that’s totally allowed, but it’s still kind of creepy. However, that one student would trade her arm to do it.

7. The Texter

Even in big lecture halls, your professor can see you text. Why be so incredibly rude? Whoever you’re texting can wait a couple minutes to get a “lol”, especially when you’re really not laughing out loud.

8. The Student Who Disrupts The Seating Flow

The first rule of college is to follow the imaginary seating chart. You sit somewhere for five weeks, you stay there the entire course. We have a system. Don’t be the jerk that messes that up. We’ll all secretly hate you.

9. The Weird One

We enjoy when the kind of odd student finds their own group of misfits, but that doesn’t make it any easier to understand them when they compare Chaucer to an alien invasion. After that comparison, even the professor will think you’re weird.

10.   The Student Who’s Always Late

This student wouldn’t be such a nuisance if they only learned how to not make so much noise when entering.  Second rule of college: if you’re more than twenty minutes late, just let it go.

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In my life, we often forget to appreciate how far we’ve come. We’re too busy trying to rush forward to the next big destination. After doing my list of 26 things to do before I turn 26, I thought of all the things I want to accomplish by the end of next year. I have been 25 for  19 days now,  and I decided to reflect on all the things I have done because they are just as important as the things I will do.

Do what makes you happy

Here are 50 things I’ve done before I turned 25:

1. Held a job for four years

2. Attended the concert of my favorite band and/or singer

3. Been called a “legend”

4. Fallen in love and got my heart broken

5. Done something illegal

6. Asked out a crush

7. Saved someone’s life

8. Lived on my own

9. Had financial independence

10. Survived a financial crisis

11. Survived a major illness

12. Lost over 40 pounds

13.  Given a speech in front of a huge crowd

14. Had a ‘perfect’ day

15. Traveled outside of Illinois

16.  Had a random adventure

17. Overcome a major fear

18. Been called “beautiful’ by a complete stranger

19. Been given flowers

20. Danced in public

21. Graduated college

22. Donated money to a cause I support

23.  Been on television

24. Wrote for a living

25.  Made a film I’m proud of

26. Proved people wrong

27.  Did something others said was impossible

28. Became friends with an enemy

29. Won a plane ticket

30. Wrote at least 5 webseries

31. Started a novel

32. Obtained grant money

33. Maintained friendships with people I’ve known for more than ten years

34. Taught myself a new skill

35.  Stood up for myself

36.  Been in a fight (with a non-family member)

37.  Owned a pet

38. Traveled on a plane

39. Escaped  a dangerous situation

40.  Had a near death experience

41. Read 0ver a hundred books

42. Learned a new language

43.  Appear in a newspaper article

44. Helped someone in need

45. Been told ‘my life has been changed for knowing you’

46. Started a blog

47.   Saw a broadway musical

48.  Had a moment of unspeakable bravery

49. Danced in the street

50.  Taken a big chance

Disclaimer: I am not a professional psychiatrist. I am only someone who suffered through depression and found ways to mange it. Do not read this post as an article from a professional but as possible ways to find some meaning in dark days. 

I graduated college  over a year  ago and this last year has been anything but magical. Many of us believe once we get our first degree then the world will open up to us.We’ll finally get the life we’ve always dreamed. But right now getting our dream life  has become more difficult than ever before.

Many people have degrees, and you can no longer expect that alone to lead to the job of your dreams, or even some transition jobs. Fifty-three percent of college graduates are underemployed or unemployed, and eighty-five percent of recent grads  have moved back  in with their parents. It’s reasonable to feel a little or really depressed if you’re one, or both, of those statistics.  I was. I am very independent by nature and having to move back home in my twenties felt very limiting.

So jobless, living with parents and without real guidance I felt hopeless, especially seeing so many people I know  get their dream jobs,or at least a good step towards them. I have suffered through stages of depression most of my life and recently found substantial ways to manage it so I was not going to let these road blocks force me back into depression. I used some very simple, but effective ways to find meaning in my life and not let the burden of not having the perfect life defeat me. Here are some of the things I did and may help you.

                               Learn as much as you can about your dream job

The more you learn the easier it will be to go after it full force. Don’t just read books on career advice, but subscribe to blogs, magazines, or newsletters specifically geared toward your field of interest. Besides that, talk to people in your dream field. I can not express how useful linkedin is and how nice strangers can be when you express a desire for guidance. I learned so much from informative interviews with alumni of my college. If you have goals and direction it’ll make the transition year less stressful and very productive.

Another useful way to get advice is joining a club or volunteering somewhere related to your career path. For me, I want to become a full-time screenwriter-but also have interest in entertainment news journalism and freelancing-so I volunteer at the major film festival here. I have met so many cool people, but also received great advice and stories from people who share my dreams. Just working towards something and actively taking charge of your future, not just passively sending out resumes, can instantly snap you into action mode and that can get you out of depression.

                                            Talk to someone about how you feel

You may feel it’s weak to tell others about your problems, but talking can heal you. Whether you talk to a family member, friend, or therapist it really helps you feel less burden by your situation. Even if that person does nothing but listen, sometimes it’s nice not to feel so alone.

                                         Engage in more projects/join clubs/start a club

While you have all this free time why not take advantage of it? You’ll feel more productive and who knows what this project can become.  You could develop a new skill that could look great on your resume or just a sense of satisfaction and self-discovery you need.

                                                                  Get out more

Remember how you missed your parents like crazy while  you were away at college? Well recreate that by keeping your social life intact. It could also lead to a better network which can lead to a job.

                                                        Set realistic weekly goals

Not getting your dream job can have nothing to do with your skills and everything to do with your approach. If you write ten cover letters and resumes a day, think about what percentage of those were actually good. Then ponder how many of those were on jobs you really wanted.  If you’re producing that many a day then you’re probably half assing them. This isn’t that easy A course you took in school, it’s the real world and requires the proper nurturing to obtain a dream job.

Your aim should be to realistically set goals and timelines for your life. If you put “get dream job within the next two months”  as a goal you may get it, but you also may not. If you don’t you may feel like a failure and that can cause depression. Instead, set goals like “make ten new network connections within next two months.” That’s easy with social media sites or just by putting effort into meeting people.  By living in reality you can stop  disappointment and treat life in a positive realistic manner.

                                                            Don’t stop dreaming

Why not plan your future  now? Where would you move? What would you do? What would you buy? Dream big and dream often. Dreams can become reality when we believe in them enough. Being grounded in reality helps cope with depressing, but dreaming helps you cope with life.

                                                        Find other sources of income

While you’re still in the post-college transition phase there are still many ways you can make money without holding a 9-5 job. You can easily research it, but some quick ways are selling stuff, surveys, paid experiments, starting a small business from hobbies (Good at photoshop? Why not start a small business designing flyers for local businesses, or developing blog themes?). By making some money while still underemployed or unemployed it can make you feel less hopeless about not having a 9-5 especially if you have looming bills.

Life is beautiful no matter it’s current state so find some beauty through the cloudy days. But as always, seek professional help if depression becomes too much to handle. There is no shame in seeking help.